Designing a Life You Actually Want with Megan Schnarr

In this episode of Better Your Business, Cher Goetz sits down with Megan Schnarr to unpack what it really means to step off the “expected” path and create a life that actually feels good. From navigating burnout and people-pleasing to trusting your intuition and redefining success, this episode is a must-listen for women in real estate who are ready for more.

In this episode you will hear: 

• [00:50] Megan shares her role as a life design coach and explains how she helps women create a version of success that feels aligned, grounded, and intentional.
• [02:19] A powerful look at how conditioning, expectations, and societal norms keep us stuck on paths we didn’t consciously choose.
• [04:21] Megan opens up about hitting rock bottom, leaving corporate life, and walking away from people-pleasing to build a life on her own terms.
• [06:50] Growth isn’t glamorous. This stage is lonely, uncertain, and uncomfortable, but necessary for transformation.
• [09:13] A powerful metaphor that explains why most people stay in safe, predictable lives and what it really takes to step into the unknown.
• [11:17] Exploring how we’ve lost connection with our intuition and rely too heavily on external validation.
• [13:13] Megan introduces the concept of expanding your “surface area of luck” by changing your environment, circle, and exposure to new ideas.
• [15:20] A practical and relatable breakdown of how intuition feels in the body and why learning to trust it changes everything.
• [19:00] A mindset shift for high achievers who struggle with overcommitment, delegation, and saying no.
• [20:41] From childhood strengths to adult careers, Megan explains how we often build identities around what we’re good at, not what we enjoy.
• [24:50] Even in entrepreneurship, many professionals unintentionally rebuild rigid systems that limit freedom.
• [27:25] Breaking down manifestation and the reticular activating system (RAS) in a way that actually makes sense.
• [33:40] A simple but powerful example of how your expectations shape your experiences, both positively and negatively.
• [41:55] The impact of “speed to lead” culture and constant availability on burnout and emotional regulation.
• [44:09] Megan shares practical home systems, from daily laundry to meal planning that create more calm and clarity.
• [48:05] How repeatable systems free up mental space and eliminate unnecessary stress.
• [50:42] Why clear roles and responsibilities are essential for reducing overwhelm and resentment.
• [56:11] Small, aligned actions can create meaningful change without risking everything.

Connect with Megan:

Instagram: @meganschnarr

Cheryl Goetz has been a Realtor since 2016 and knows firsthand what it feels like to build a business filled with anxiety, confusion, and constant pressure. After raising two kids, navigating a transition from new construction to resale, and adapting through shifting markets, she transformed her career into one that now feels intentional, joyful, and ease-filled. Today, Cheryl helps women in real estate do the same — creating businesses that reflect their authentic selves, attract aligned clients, and grow sustainably. Her mission is simple: to help women drop the industry “shoulds” and build businesses that fuel their lives.

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Transcript

SPEAKER_01 0:01

Welcome to the Better Your Business Podcast, the show for realtors who want to build a business that fuels their life, not takes from it. I'm your host, Charles Getz, and around here we mixed humor, honesty, and real-world strategy to help you create systems, work with clients you love, and achieve your definition of success. Together we will chat with inspiring fellow realtors and industry experts, sharing stories, insights, strategies, and mindset shifts so you can grow with confidence, clarity, and ease. Let's dive in. Hello, hello. Welcome back to the Better Your Business Podcast. I'm here with my girl Megan Schnurr.

SPEAKER_02 0:37

I'm excited.

SPEAKER_01 0:38

Megan, I want to open up, just let you uh tell the listeners a little bit about yourself and how you think you can help women in real estate today.

SPEAKER_02 0:47

Okay. Thanks for having me. Of course. I am a life design coach. I'm a twin mom. I feel like those are my two identities right now. Very much so. And I really feel like I could help women in real estate because I feel like women in real estate are kind of the women who are really forging the path for themselves. They really wanted to create a new version of success. So they already have that in them. But also they're very busy. They take on a lot and they are accessible 24-7. And so I think from a life design perspective, it's really creating a life for themselves that feels really good and it still feels grounded and peaceful and organized and calm, but yet they're still pursuing their passions.

SPEAKER_01 1:37

Okay, so you said life design.

SPEAKER_02 1:38

Yes.

SPEAKER_01 1:39

What is life design?

SPEAKER_02 1:40

Okay, I feel like I would put myself in the bucket of life coach just to like simplify it. The reason I say life design is because I feel like the majority of the work that I do and the clients that I work with is really about designing a life that you actually want. Because I think we go through so much of life being conditioned to go down these paths and careers and lifestyles because that's just what we're influenced by in our life from like a very young age, that we sometimes like don't even get to choose what we want. And there comes a point in time where like it feels off, something doesn't feel right, we want to change something, but really getting to the point where like you can actually decide what life looks like for you. How is your morning routine? What are you doing throughout the day that brings you energy? How are you filling your cup? Who are you spending your time with? What type of work are you doing? Are you behind the scenes? Are you collaborating? Like, what are you doing? And when you can get like really clear on all these things that you want, you can really identify the gap between the life that you're living now versus the life that you want. And that's really like the work that we do is the in-between to get to where you want to do. But like, I feel like most of us are just not given the choice and the chance to design a life that we want. We're kind of just like pushed along this path. And so, again, like giving people the space to actually decide what they want for themselves.

unknown 3:02

Yeah.

SPEAKER_01 3:02

And what I love about you is like you're walking the walk. Like you aren't just talking the talk. So let's talk about like the two pivotal moments that I've seen you go through, um, you know, that led you eventually to this.

SPEAKER_02 3:17

Yes. I think a big part of it is when you feel like you've like outgrown your life. And if that's happened to you, it keeps happening. It's not just like a one-and-done thing because now you are like opened up to the possibility of change and you're like, oh, okay, I can change things again. But I would say, like, from a pivotal moment, I think we all experience this in our life where little things in your life will have resistance or they will go wrong or something's not right, and we like suppress it and we ignore it, and we just choose to decide to keep forging forward because it's so much easier to like deal with the frustrations of our everyday life than actually like deal with the emotional internal battle that we're like going through. So we just like push it down and we don't do anything about it. So I feel like there's two paths there's there's either the people who like finally decide, like, okay, enough is enough. I'm gonna do something about it, or there's the other side, which is what happened to me. And it's like this pivotal moment where your life burns to the ground and everything collapses and you have to rebuild. So I had one of those about like almost 10 years ago now. Um, and that really was like the rock bottom moment for me where everything like changed and I had to really like decide what I wanted for my life. And that I feel like stemmed my personal development journey, my growth journey, my self-employment journey. Like that's really what started it. And then I would say like the second pivotal moment is choosing to leave the nine to five corporate world, which was really hard for me because I was someone who followed the straight and narrow path. Like I went to school, I got good grades, I got into corporate, I climbed the corporate ladder, went to another corporate job. And every time I would like tick another box, I feel like I would become less fulfilled, less happy. And so when I chose to take that leap of leaving corporate and like leaving this whole life that I had built, I feel like it was a huge pivotal moment for me because it really like opened my eyes to the type of life that I wanted to create for myself, what it really meant for me to have be successful, like what I wanted to do with my time, like what I wanted to do from like a freedom perspective. Um, and then my most recent pivotal moment was I feel like I've always been this person who would identify as a people pleaser. And I think that comes, you know, we all have our experience like growing up and the childhood wounds and like the inner child and how we were raised. I think that plays a big part of it. And I always, like now, later in life, having done work, I really identified myself as this person who could shape shift. What I mean by that is I clocked from a really young age, like when I do things that people like, they keep me around. And so I started to develop this pattern where no matter who I was around, I could really adapt to the situation. And I became like very likable. So I over time had this like constant validation of like, oh, if I act like this, or if I do this, or if I think like this, people will like me, people will keep me around. I'm fun, I'm like the go-to good gal, etc. And so that pattern like continued later in life in my career where I started doing a lot of things because I was good at something, or I knew I could do it and I knew someone needed it, so I would do it for them. And I really started to lose sight of what I enjoyed doing and what I wanted to do. And so my most recent pivotal moment, I would say, is really choosing to like focus on what I want to do and like building my own brand, my own career, my own desires, and just saying no to everything else, even though I'm having like financial opportunities come to me that I have to turn down and trust that I'm on the right path. So that would be like three pivotal moments, I would say.

SPEAKER_01 7:14

So it sounds like there's a lot of uh discomfort. Oh my gosh. Like as you're talking, I'm like, oh my gosh, that's so uncomfortable. Like turning opportunities down with just the faith of waiting for financial opportunities that align with also what you want to do. So it sounds like you're in this in-between stage. And anyone who wants to pause and take a look at their uh bettering their life design, they're also gonna experience some discomfort and they're gonna be in this in-between stage.

SPEAKER_03 7:50

Yes.

SPEAKER_01 7:50

So can you talk more about the discomfort of the in-between stage and how to move through that?

SPEAKER_02 7:56

Yes. So we're all like going down this path again from like a very young age, and not even like in a bad way. It's just like a trajectory that we're on. And so there comes a moment in time where I think a lot of us feel like it's it's like subtle. It's something's off, something doesn't feel right. Maybe you're like unmotivated, maybe you have like brain fog, you're like lagging in the morning, getting ready for work. You're just like things start to just like not feel exciting about life. And so what ends up happening is we either ignore it and we just like keep trekking on and we keep going, we don't question it, we don't like choose to do anything about it, or we start to decide, okay, like something's not right about my life, and I need to like figure out what that is. And then now that means you've stepped one toe, one foot, into the in-between. And now you're into this like abyss or this like void space where you don't feel connected or aligned to the past version of yourself, but you actually don't know what the future holds. So you're kind of like stuck in this in-between of like not knowing what to do. It's very uncomfortable, it's very isolating because you don't even have the support of the people around you to be able to like push you along. Like you're by yourself because most people in your circle, your friends, your family, your coworkers, if you were to tell them like, hey, I'm feeling this way, they would be like, What? Like you work so hard for this life, you're really good at what you do, like that's not safe. Like, what are you gonna do if it doesn't work out? So then you continue to like, you know, tell yourself, this is crazy, I shouldn't do this. So this in-between stage is very uncomfortable, it's very like isolating. And I like to use this like analogy or like metaphor of like if you're going to a trail in your local city, and usually you like roll up to the trail, you like park your car. There's usually like a big map of like where to start the trail, like the checkpoints. It's really like well paved or well marked, even throughout the trail. There's like, you know, those little signs that say, like, go this way, continue on. And you know, like when you start the trail, you'll know the destination, like you know where you're gonna end up. That is like the path of life that we're all on from a really young age. We're kind of told these like checkpoints and these milestones that we're gonna hit if we stay on this path. Like if you do all of these things, get the job, climb the ladder, be successful, like when you retire, you'll be able to have this much money, you'll be able to enjoy yourself. Like it's very like laid out for us. But sometimes, like along that path, there's just like a little gut feeling that if you step off the path, like you just feel like there's gonna be something really beautiful and big on the other side. Like you don't know what it is, but you just like feel like you should get off the path. And that's often like the like the off-the-beaten path. You know, there's always something like hidden, like a treasure, but you don't go to it because it's like foreign, it's unknown, it's like scary. And the problem with like stepping off the path is like several things happen. So, first, it's like if you decide to step off the path of like what's what is considered the life path in this situation, you're trudging through like grass, mud, like there's trees, there's no path on the ground, like you've no idea where you're going. So, you have to just like trust that where you're going is the right path. And we have completely lost touch with our self-trust, like our intuition. We rely so much on external validation of like social media, people, like all the things. And so we have a really hard time just like trusting that we're making the right step in the direction. Then it's lonely. There's nobody on this path, you're by yourself, whereas like the path that you were on had tons of people. There was like supporters, you're walking with your friends, it's all good. But yeah, the people, there's no one on this other path. And so then you're kind of like by yourself. And then the last part is you have no idea how long it's gonna take you to get to the destination. You can't see. So you have no idea if it's gonna take days, months, years, and you have to just like trust that every step forward that you're taking is leading you to somewhere that's gonna be big and beautiful on the other side. But most of us turn around and go back on the path because they're too scared, they're too uncomfortable, they're lonely, they're scared, they're fearful, etc. And so we get back on the traditional path of life and we don't take those chances. And so it's this like uncomfortable in-between because you really have to lean into the self-trust of yourself and what you want. You have to do it alone, oftentimes, and you have to just know that where you're going is bigger and better than where you are.

SPEAKER_01 12:35

What would you tell someone who is living the path life? Feels like they want to get off of the path. Yeah, but everyone around them is just saying, that's just how it is. Like I hear that, you know, like anytime like a complaint comes out of my mouth, someone around me can say, That's just how it is. Like suck it up. Like that's just what life is, that's just what motherhood is, like that's just, you know, whatever, it's just what it is. Like, deal with it. What would you say to someone instead of them hearing that? What would they hear from you?

SPEAKER_02 13:12

I think the biggest thing, again, this is like regardless if you worked with me or like anyone else outside of your circle, is uh you need to expand your circle. So there's this like concept of the surface area of luck, and basically it just means like people using like in the manifestation world, but really it just means like you need to increase your surface area of places, people, things that you're putting yourself in so that you have access to more opportunities. So it's like the nothing changes if nothing changes. Like if you surround yourself by the same people, do the same things every day, nothing is going to change. You're gonna get the same answers over and over again. So you have to put yourself in situations where you're finding expanders. Expanders can be people online, people that you know in real life that are doing the things that you want to do. Like you need to find proof in your outside world that people have success and are happy or fulfilled or living a life that you want to do outside of your circle. Then you need to get like really clear on the life that you have. So you can do like a life audit, for example. It's like look at the buckets of your life, like your career, your finances, your relationships, like your lifestyle, hobbies, whatever it is, and start to audit your days. Like go through your day for a week, for a month, whatever. Start to log everything that you're doing, highlight it in green if it brought you energy, highlight it in red if it drained you. You'll see very quickly your week is probably majority red. Okay. And that, like the visual of it, I feel like is enough to set people on the path of like, I cannot keep doing this. Like, imagine seeing a whole week of primarily like red highlighter and knowing that that could be the same in five years, just like compounded worse, right? So, like, I think a lot of the times we know something's not right, but we don't actually like give our time to dissect our life and realize like, what do I like about it? What like do I love about it? Um, and then therefore we get into these situations where like time goes on and we're just like stuck. So it's really just like giving yourself the space to do that and like ask yourself questions. And I think that's like the third part is leaning into your intuition, like giving yourself permission to answer the questions like without noise of other people. Stop looking for validation from like the people in your circle or online or Chat GBT or AI, whatever. It's like ask yourself, ask yourself a question, sit with it in silence. What comes to mind? Write down that in like that like right-away gut feeling that you have and continue to like flex the muscle of listening to your intuition.

SPEAKER_01 15:45

Yeah, and I think the more you flex that muscle, the stronger it is, right? And so sometimes that intuition comes through and you're confused by it. But the more you you play with that, yeah, um, in moments of silence and and solitude, the stronger it is where it's not confusing anymore. And it's just like full-blown your intuitions being like, don't do that or or do that.

SPEAKER_02 16:10

It'll be like Pandora's box. Like the moment that you start to like trickle it, it'll start screaming at you and you won't be able to unhear it.

SPEAKER_01 16:17

The way that I look at it too is like if you're uncomfortable on the path, clearly, or else why would you why would you be desiring like getting off the path? It's because you're uncomfortable.

SPEAKER_03 16:27

Yeah.

SPEAKER_01 16:28

And you're uncomfortable off the path. Why not be uncomfortable off the path because it's gonna lead you to like bigger and better things than staying uncomfortable on the path?

SPEAKER_02 16:38

No, exactly.

SPEAKER_01 16:39

Both is uncomfortable.

SPEAKER_02 16:40

Yeah, exactly. So it's like, why not choose the path that might lead you to like a beautiful life at the end of it, right?

SPEAKER_01 16:48

Well, and the path you can get back on anytime. Anytime. So it's like might as well dip your toe into the off the I love this path analogy. It's gonna keep going on and through the whole podcast. But like, yeah, like you can go back at any time. That's you know, I'm writing about this concept right now, like, so what? Like it's my favorite thing to say. Yeah. And so it's like, well, what if you go and do that and it doesn't work out? So what?

SPEAKER_02 17:12

Yeah.

SPEAKER_01 17:12

I don't know. I just go back to do what I'm gonna do.

SPEAKER_02 17:15

Yeah, Amy always says, like, it's not that serious. Like it's not that serious. It's not that deep.

SPEAKER_01 17:20

It's not that deep, it's not that complicated.

SPEAKER_02 17:22

No, and and the thing is, is like it's not like entirely like the individual's fault. Like our brains, at the end of the day, are wired to keep us safe and alive. Like that's its number one job. And the path that you're on right now, even if you don't like it, is keeping you safe and alive. So your brain is clocking, like what we're doing is good. Let's down this path. So the moment that you try and do something that's a little bit different, your brain is gonna be like, whoa, whoa, whoa, like this is unknown, this is unsafe. What if you die? Like, that's the extreme that it goes to. So, like, it's going to insert all of these fears, doubts, imposter syndrome, like self-sabotage, all of this stuff to like keep you in your lane. So you have to like push past that too. Like, it's not all your fault. Like your brain is literally wired to keep you where you are.

SPEAKER_01 18:04

Yeah. And I think something that I struggled with in the beginning of like, you know, going down this life design journey was trying to figure out like what was intuition and what was anxiety. Yeah. And so I asked a lot of people, you know, people who, you know, are Reiki, like things like that, right? Who are like energy work, like, how do I know the difference? And they said, like, certain things come into your body in in different ways. So I learned that like anxiety, like anxious thoughts, like come into my brain or like my chest will feel heavy, where like um intuition is like my gut and nothing ever feels heavy about it. Like it just it almost like pulls me forward. It's it's weird. Like, and that might sound super woo-woo to someone listening, but that also comes from flexing the muscle.

SPEAKER_02 18:57

No, for sure. And that's like leaning more into who you are as an individual and like understanding like how you feel certain things. Cause again, we're not in touch with ourselves anymore. So, like clocking those moments where like something feels good and then something feels icky. And so, like paying attention to like what those feelings are in your body, for some people, it could be like you said, in the gut, other people it could be like a flutter in their chest. It could be like their face feels really hot, like there's so many little signs that your body's gonna show you with if something feels good or if it doesn't. But the moment when something feels good, what we end up doing is trying to talk ourselves out of it. We try to create like logic for it. And the best thing that you can do is just like trust the initial instinct that you have and start to go in that direction versus like finding all the reasons that something won't work.

SPEAKER_01 19:46

So something that I think would really help women in real estate is differentiating something that you want to do versus something that you can do, you think you should do, or something that you're good at. Um, because something that keeps coming up to me for me that I've said to you as well a bunch of times is like just because you can doesn't mean you should. You should, right? So, and I feel like we have a hard time delegating, we have a hard time saying no. Um, so how do you like build a life around what you want and not just and and what you're good at and um not just like what you can do?

SPEAKER_02 20:22

Yeah, yeah. I think this is twofold because there's lots of people who are quote unquote good at something, but then also like do enjoy it. So that's like the best case scenario. But I think a lot of us again get pushed down this path where we're good at something and that just like becomes our identity. So let's pretend you're like in grade two and you are a little bit better at math than like the rest of your class, or maybe you just get it quicker. So like the teacher is gonna clock that, tell your parents, hey, like he's doing really well with his math stuff compared to like the other kids in the class. Perfect. Now your parents associate, like you're good at math. So you keep going through and like, yes, maybe you're like naturally good at it, or maybe it comes like easier to you. So now it's like you get to high school, and because you're good at numbers, it's gonna feel good that you're good at something. So you're gonna pursue more things that involve math, like more extracurriculars, whatever. Like that's the path you're gonna go down. Now the career fair comes to your school and you're like, okay, I gotta like pick my career. And so your friends are like, oh, for sure, you're gonna get something in numbers. You're gonna be like a finance advisor, an accountant, whatever. So you're like, okay, like I've got to go to these booths at the career fair. And when I apply to school, it's gonna be for math. I don't know like what the specific thing is, but you know what I mean? Like it's something in numbers. So now you spend all this money, all this energy, all this time investing in your math skills. You get better and better, and now you're in this math world. So now you have this resume because you're just finishing like post-secondary education that is like very number heavy, whatever you went to school for. So, like the natural path for you is to like pursue a career in like finance, accounting, whatever. Engineer, I don't know, like whatever other career paths that have numbers. And again, you are good at it. So that's like a good thing. And I can feel very validating because like people will recognize that, right? But then you get down this path where like sometimes it works and sometimes you're done it. It doesn't. And so you wake up in the morning, you're like, I don't even enjoy math. But yet my whole life, my whole identity has now been like tied to math because in grade two, I was a little bit better than the kids in my class.

SPEAKER_01 22:25

And it's so confusing because I'm good at it.

SPEAKER_02 22:28

Yes, but it doesn't that exactly. So we like stay on these paths where we're like good at something, and we create these stories in our head where like I couldn't possibly do anything else because I've just like mastered this craft my entire life since grade two. Like I can't do something else, right? And so I do feel like we get stuck on this, and then we feel like because we're good at something, that's what we should do. And I think again, for people that can work out, but then the other side of it is just like you can actually really enjoy something that you're really shitty at. And that means you have to learn to do it, that brings you joy, and it doesn't like feel like work. And I think even for the women in real estate, there's so many like different areas of real estate, and again, I'm sure it's the same for you guys. Like you get like pushed down this path. I remember doing um uh like a speaking engagement for like a group of real estate agents, and they were like so gung ho about um door knocking, right? And they're like, that's just what you have to do, you know, like that, you know, and like some of them are good at it, and I'm like, that's crazy. Like, there's so many other ways to market yourself, you know, and it's like again, it's like depending on your situation, sometimes you just get like so tied up in this way of doing something or like you're good at it, so therefore you should do it. But it's like you could really flex like another muscle and try something new that really like fulfills you and gives you that sustainable energy and like doesn't feel like work.

SPEAKER_01 23:54

The amount of times that I have seen the like realtors' eyeballs change when they look at me, when they say, you know, this is what I'm this is what I'm doing, and they go on this rant about it. And then all I do is I say, Do you enjoy it? And then it's like deadpan looking at me. Like that's the first thing, first time they've ever even heard that question. And I'm just like, well, what are we doing if we're not even enjoying it? Like, why are we doing it? Like, there's other options. You're acting like there's only one option, and there's so many options. And it's like we're, you know, we're not living our life for anybody else. We chose this career so we didn't have a boss and we can do things our way, and yet you're all doing stuff that you don't want to do that you don't enjoy just because someone who's a quote unquote like boss figure is telling you how to do it. Yeah. And I think it is because like maybe we became realtors to have our own boss, but then all we do is try to look for a boss.

SPEAKER_02 24:58

Yeah, or we recreate like a corporate environment in our own life, you know what I mean? Because that's just what we're used to. We're never really given the choice in our life to like decide for ourselves. Like, if you think about it from like a really young age, you're like guided up until you're like 18 to 21, depending on like if you go to school or whatever. But like at first it's gonna be like your parents guiding you and like showing you the way. So you're gonna take on like their beliefs, their actions, their ways of doing. Then it's like your teachers, you're gonna be influenced by the way you're being taught. Then it's like your friends and their parents, like your environment. And like we're kind of just like guided along, and we're never really like given the choice of A, like, what do you like? But then B, like the chance to actually like explore, do I like this? Try it for a few weeks. Okay, no, I don't. And then I can like move on. Like, we're never really like given that opportunity. And so literally up until like our adulthood, and then we're like thrown into the deep end to like figure life out. And you're like, I can't try something new now.

SPEAKER_01 25:56

Like, yeah, you feel like it's too late.

SPEAKER_02 25:58

I did well in math in second grade, okay?

SPEAKER_01 26:00

Like, I'm having the craziest aha moment right now that's like turning us into giving us a left turn, but I have to say it. Like, Rhea is so stinking good at gymnastics, my daughter Rhea, and I'm so mad that she's not in gymnastics. And I feel like I'm the problem. I literally just have this aha moment where I'm like, oh my god, Charlotte, what are you doing? Like, yeah, I'm the problem because it's like she's so good at it. All I want her to do is go do it. Yeah, but she doesn't want to. Yeah. I'm like, why am I doing this? Yeah. But I feel like it's a waste. But like, is it a waste if she doesn't want to do it? It's more so a waste of her time if she doesn't want to do it.

SPEAKER_02 26:44

No, absolutely. And that's not to say like in a couple years, she might feel like completely different and she might want to get back into it. And it doesn't mean that you've like lost those years. You know, there's lots of people who start things at like different ages and stuff. But yeah, like if you don't have like a passion for it, if it's like a grind, like it's just it's not like fulfilling you in a way that it should. Like, again, like you can be good at a lot of things and it doesn't mean you should do them all, you know?

SPEAKER_01 27:07

Yeah. Oh my gosh, 100%. This is like a free coaching session for me. So thank you. Um, okay, I'm curious about how our thoughts create our reality. This is something that's like been a big shift for me, is like my inner dialogue. Yeah, yeah.

SPEAKER_02 27:24

Yeah, so I think like not to like lean too much like in the manifestation because it obviously depends like how woo you can be. And I can get woo, but I feel like at the end of the day, I'm like a type A person. I want some like yeah, I want some logic behind it. Yeah, there's this concept in manifestation saying that um to manifest, you're only able to manifest what you believe you're worthy of, and it's essentially like breaking down our thought pattern. So I'm not like I'm not I'm not the big science person, okay?

SPEAKER_01 27:55

Wait, wait, I need to pause because you said the sentence, you can only manifest what you believe you're worthy of. I feel like everyone just needs to like sit with that for a minute.

SPEAKER_02 28:03

You can only manifest what you believe you're worthy of.

SPEAKER_01 28:06

Oh.

SPEAKER_02 28:07

So if you believe you are only worthy of this as your cap, like I'm doing a video, like a little low, low bar, that's that's all that you have access to to manifest. So you have to feel abundant, feel worthy, feel expansive to be able to call in opportunities. And again, that's not even in a woo-way, like you're just not gonna have access to it. So there's a part in your brain called the reticular activating system. It's all it's like the RAS, and it's essentially your brain's filtration system. And so if you think about right now, like us being in this podcast room, there's so much going on. There's lights, there's different textures, there's different color. Like the wood table here has so much going on. Like we physically cannot process all of that at once. Like we would be overwhelmed as human beings. Like, think about like driving your car, how much is going on? Yeah. So there's like two things that happen. Your brain understands what it does, what it needs to do to like keep you safe, right? So it's gonna like look for danger essentially. But then the other side of that is it's filtering out, like your reticular activating system is like this filtration system. So it is filtering in only what you have told it that it is important. So it's like the concept of like the white jeep or the red car. It's like if you start talking about a white jeep, you're all of a sudden gonna see it everywhere. It's not that the like white jeep just like appeared out of nowhere, it's just your brain didn't think it was important before. So you're not focused on it. So with the concept of like your thoughts create your reality, if you are only thinking about the same routines, the same things every day, the same work, the same people, that it's like that's all it's gonna focus on. That's all that's gonna be in your world. But the moment that you start to expand your thought process, your belief system of thinking more, you're gonna have opportunities come to you. And again, not new woo-way. So the example I like to give is like, say, for example, you want to become a public speaker. So you start to think to yourself, maybe you journal it, maybe you meditate on it, maybe you just start thinking, you're like, okay, like I'm I want to be a public speaker, like I want to pursue this path, I want to do this. Like you're telling your brain, like, this is what I want. Now you're gonna notice things you didn't notice before. You could be in an elevator and there could be a sign on the elevator that says like public speaking workshop for beginners that you would have never noticed before because like that's not important to you. So you're like, hey, cool, I'm gonna try that. Maybe you're on Instagram or Facebook and you see this like group for public speakers in your local area getting together. Maybe you see like an event happening where they're like looking for speakers, like you're gonna see things pop up that were always there. It's just it never, your brain never thought it was important. And so now you have access to more of these opportunities to be able to create abundance in your life in the areas that you want. And that goes for like everything, right? So you have to change the way that you think about things, especially in like an abundance, like high vibe energy to be able to attract more because your brain is just gonna be capped at where it is right now.

SPEAKER_00 31:08

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SPEAKER_02 34:01

Yeah. And again, like you can get very woo-with it, you can get very energy-based. Like, there's lots of people who will like share different perspectives, but like at its core, like breaking down like the law of attraction, like attracts like, is like you have to be on the same like playing field, the same vibrational level as like something that you're trying to attract. Because it's not even in like your world right now. It's like the it's like, let's just say you woke up. I used to have an old roommate. She would wake up every morning and she'd be like, Oh, like today is gonna suck. Like she just like dreaded her job, right? So she'd wake up in the morning, she would be dreading it, she'd be like, today's gonna suck. The moment she would come home, she'd be like, This went wrong, this went wrong, this went wrong. Because like she has told her brain from the moment that she's woken up that today is gonna suck. So her brain's gonna be like, Okay, I'm gonna prove to you all the ways today is going wrong. Those things like will happen regardless, but it's gonna hyper focus on those things for her to clog so that when she comes home, she is validated of like, yeah, today sucked. This happened, my patient didn't show up. I spilled coffee, there was traffic, etc. But if you wake up in the morning and you're like, I'm gonna crush today, I'm so excited for the opportunities that are gonna come my way. I'm doing this, this, this. You're gonna go out into the world, you're gonna hold yourself higher, you're gonna be more confident, you're gonna be more open to speaking to people, you're gonna have your head out of your phones, you're gonna be like more aware of the world around you. Like more things are probably gonna go right. It doesn't mean that you're not gonna be stuck in traffic or that your patient was late or that you spilled coffee, but it's not gonna focus on those things because they didn't matter, right? You're gonna focus on an abundance piece of your day.

SPEAKER_01 35:30

It sounds like all of this is also rooted in a healthy nervous system, a calm nervous system. What routines do you have in your life that support your nervous system that you would, you know, encourage others to adapt as well?

SPEAKER_02 35:44

A bazillion. No, okay. I think when people think of like nervous system regulation, they go too intense. They're like, oh, I have to do this like extreme breath work practice, or I have to do all these things.

SPEAKER_01 35:56

Like cold plunge at 5 a.m. No, no, no.

SPEAKER_02 35:58

Like those are all great, but like you can like start with the basics and start with what you have access to. So I would say the other thing too is like people have a misconception with nervous system regulation. They think like, oh, I have to be calm all the time. No. Nervous system regulation is the ability to like go through stressful moments because like that is life, but then be able to like bounce back and regulate quick quicker because you have the tools inside of you. And that comes with like building that over time and like being able to like flex those muscles with you and like not operating at this like fight or flight mode all the time. So I feel like the biggest thing for me from like a nervous system regulation is like I like to create as many like calm moments and opportunities in my day as I can. So, for example, like one thing for me is I wake up like an hour before my kids every morning because I know like the moment they're awake, it's like boom, boom, boom. Like we're getting clothes on, I'm changing diapers, I'm getting breakfast ready, I'm eating my breakfast. Like I gotta get them. Yeah, exactly. Like I'm I'm not pouring into my cup anymore. So I need to make sure that I get up an hour before so that I can pour into my cup, do what I need to do to like wake up and get regulated so that when everybody else wakes up, I'm like at the top of my game and I can have the patience and the resilience to like work through another morning with twin toddlers. You know what I mean? So getting up, like having my morning lemon water, like meditating, doing my future self journal, like reading, going to workout class sometimes, just like taking that time for me. So that's like one. The other thing I would say is like again, like foundations. Like, how are you sleeping? Like, are you sleeping in a cool, dark room? Are you getting like seven to nine hours of sleep? Are you really like prioritizing like the quiet in your room? Or do you like are you scrolling before bed? Like, what does your routine look like with sleep? Because sleep is truly the foundation. Are you nourishing yourself? Or are you just like a person who's snacking all day and grabbing like a bar on the go? No, like your body needs to feel nourished. So are you giving it whole foods throughout the day to be able to energize it? Like those basic things are so important. Um, and again, like how are you doing things to take away the stimulation of the day? Because again, we live in a world now where we're very bombarded all the time, we're very accessible. So you have to like forcefully put in place boundaries and things where you are disconnecting and like allowing your mind to rest. Like we're just not bored as a like species anymore. Like you go to the doctor's office and everybody is on their phone looking at something, doing something, multitasking. Like, when was the last time you just saw someone like sitting there, just like taking in this right now? Or just going for a walk with nothing in your ears.

SPEAKER_01 38:46

Yeah.

SPEAKER_02 38:46

Yeah.

SPEAKER_01 38:47

Or just not look going for a walk and not looking at the screen.

SPEAKER_02 38:50

No, I know, exactly. Like we just don't anymore. And so, like, that's like a problem too. And so, and then the last thing I would say is um, again, I'm like more type A, but like systems in your home. So, like things, I think the biggest thing is like a mental load that a lot of women experience. I'm sure a lot of real estate experience because they're very much on the go. Yeah, but the mental load is huge. And so things that are like rinse and repeat in your life or that are ongoing, those are the things that you have to like systemize so that it removes it from the mental load because you're never gonna get away from the mental load. All you can do is try and like lessen it.

SPEAKER_01 39:25

Okay, so before we go into your home systems, which you know I'm obsessed with and I wish I I don't want to say I wish I could implement. I will implement. I want like speak it into existence.

SPEAKER_02 39:38

Um there you go.

SPEAKER_01 39:41

Again, free coaching session here on the podcast. Um, I love what you said where it's like you're it's not about being calm all the time. It's not realistic. And like that's something that a therapist actually once said to me when I had the girls, is I was like, I don't want to show emotion around them. And they're like, that's not no, you don't need to do that. Like, you don't need to be like perfect all of the time. They need to see that you get emotional and you like come back from it. And it's the same with like your nervous system. You're allowed to be stressed out, you're allowed to have something like irk you, frustrate you, whatever. Like that's not a failure, but I love how you were like, it's about bouncing back. And I do see that problem in women in real estate so often is two things. One, when something goes awry, it's like it's a three-day ordeal. And I'm like, why are we still even on this? You know, like why aren't we back to like on with our day? Yeah. And it's because I think it's because they don't have enough calm moments throughout their day to almost like train the body to learn how to go back to calm, right?

SPEAKER_02 40:52

Yeah, they don't have the tools to know how to like emotionally regulate from that situation. So the norm for them is to just like continue to stew, continue to think about it, continue like what could I have done differently, or what could the person have done differently, or whatever happened.

SPEAKER_01 41:04

Yeah. I also see a huge issue amongst realtors as the fight or flight. So things will just like not get dealed dealt with because it's like they don't want to face it, so they don't fix it. So it's like they're they're flighting from it. And then the other one is fight. Oh my gosh. The reactions to some situations that I see, I'm like, girl, pause.

SPEAKER_02 41:29

Yeah, take a breath. It's not that serious.

SPEAKER_01 41:31

This does not need an answer either at all, or it doesn't need an answer right now, or the answer that you want to give that's five freaking paragraphs long, can be a sentence. Yes. And there's power in that as well. Oh, for sure. It comes from this like re we have such a reactionary job that we are trained to react. There's actually something called speed to lead. And that's apparently like the only way you can be successful in real estate is your speed to lead. And so there's there's actually like a team lead that uh you would either lose the lead or you would like you couldn't be on the team anymore, like if you didn't get to a lead in under a certain amount of minutes or something like that. And so that creates a massive nervous system dysregulation, it does not create any moments of calm because you always have to be on. And so that's wired in us as like we need to be on 24-7.

SPEAKER_03 42:33

Yeah.

SPEAKER_01 42:33

And then that you know doesn't create a calm nervous system and it only enhances this like fight or flight.

SPEAKER_02 42:39

Yeah, that speed till you was probably created by a man too. So it's not it's not equipped for women. It's just not, we're different. It's so true.

SPEAKER_01 42:47

It's so true, and we have different uh different positives. Um, okay, so yes, let's dive into the systems that you use in your home and in your everyday life. Um, you know, just as a person, as a woman, as a wife, as a mom, all of it.

SPEAKER_02 43:02

Yeah. It's so funny. We've like talked about this before. And to me, like it feels so normal in my head, and then I say it out loud to someone and I see their face and they're like, what the heck, you know. Um, okay, so for context, though, I am like very type A. So like this is not gonna work. I'm also married to the type Z, okay? Like he I love this. He's low on the context.

SPEAKER_01 43:23

Me and Chris are both type C, so we're disasters to him.

SPEAKER_02 43:26

He doesn't like he's not seeing the mess, it's not in his vortex. He did he is he is very even keeled the whole time. He doesn't get stressed out much, you know. So again, it's it's sometimes it's like about your personality as well and like what you can tolerate. So for me, unfortunately, the way I'm wired, things like bother me a lot quicker than him, let's just say. The other thing, too, is I have twins. They're toddlers. So like if you have a toddler, you know, now times two who are also different. Um, I work for myself, like I feel like there's a lot of like movement. Moving parts. I don't have this like traditional life. And so I feel like systems are very important in the life that we live. So again, I said it before, but I feel like when people think of systems, they think, oh, it's this like platform or like software. But really, like systems are like habits, routines, rituals, like things that are like rinse repeat that you can systemize or do a certain way so that it removes the mental load of having to think about it. And there's so many things in our day-to-day life that are on the regular. So for example, like I have one with laundry. We've talked about this before, but I do laundry every single day. And if I miss a day, it's really just because like we were busy, we had stuff going on. But every single morning I'm putting in a load of laundry. It's usually my girls because I'm washing their clothes every day because they get it dirty. And some point in the day, usually like either at lunch or when I wake them up from a nap because the laundry is like right beside their room, I'll put it in the dryer so it gets dried. And then usually that night I'm bringing it in the room when we're doing bedtime and they're like helping me fold it. Because keep in mind, we're doing it every day. So the load is small. So we're putting it away. I'm not someone who owns like 10 laundry baskets. I think we have two somewhere. Like I cannot handle like laundry baskets with clothes in it.

SPEAKER_01 45:19

Explain to me.

SPEAKER_02 45:19

Yeah. There, you won't see it in my house. Okay. Yeah. The laundry basket that we have is used to like take the clothes out. We put the clothes away and then it goes back in the laundry.

SPEAKER_01 45:27

Oh my gosh. This is amazing.

SPEAKER_02 45:29

Like I can't, I can't deal with like the crumpled up clothes. But that's also like a me problem. Like that really great creates like anxiety for me, right? So for me, I have to do something about it. But the thing is, with this system, it's not it not only is it like rinse repeat every day, I just like know what I'm doing. I don't have to think about it. I also like don't have to worry about like, oh, does like is Piper's pants like clean for this? It's just I know it is because I cleaned it yesterday. You know what I mean?

SPEAKER_01 45:56

Saving your future self as well.

SPEAKER_02 45:57

So again, like lessening the mental load. The other one, and this again is like personality type, but I'm the type of person where like if I like something from a meal perspective, I can eat it every day and not get sick of it until I do, but then I just switch it up. But I can eat it like for a long time. So we have like rinse and repeat meals, um, which we are changing right now because it's like spring, summer. But I feel like one of the most annoying things as a mom is what are we gonna have for dinner? I hate thinking about what to have for dinner. So for us, we rotate between like five and seven meals. I know my daughters are gonna like it. I know that we'll have leftovers, so therefore I don't have to think about lunch. And then it's the same grocery order week after week. Obviously, sometimes we have to add in like items like this or like larger items, but for the most part, I have the same grocery order. So not only now do I like not have to think about like what are we gonna have for dinner, I don't have to think about the grocery order. I had don't have to look in my pantry to see if I have the ingredients, I don't have to order things for this specific recipe that I'm like gonna use once and then it's gonna go bad. So it's just like we have this system when it comes to food where I'm like everyone will be happy eating these, everyone likes it, it's nourishing, etc. I don't have to think about it. So it's like removing the mental load of that. So that's another one. And then I would say like a third that's like most common for us is every night I do a nightly reset. So we have an open concept floor plan. So for me, like the main level of our house has to be like spotless the moment the girls are sleeping. So I'll either like be cleaning with them or Daniel does bath time. So like while he's doing that, and it takes like let's just say 20-ish minutes or so, depending on how crazy the afternoon was. But I'm like fully cleaning everything, like every toy is going back where it's supposed to go. The blankets on the couch are getting folded. I'm cleaning like the counters, I'm putting the dishes away, or I'm running the dishwasher, I'm dimming the lights, my little robot vacuum is going. Like every night I'm doing this like reset because for me, a clean space is a clear mind. Like I'm able to actually like decompress. But at the same time, my house doesn't get to the point where I'm like overwhelmed because it's like this huge mess, and now I need like three hours on a Saturday to like conquer. Like, I don't have that time, but I have 20 minutes every day.

SPEAKER_01 48:21

Yeah. The laundry system, when you told me this, probably I don't know, a year or a year and a half ago, just blew my mind. And like, I think what I understood the concept of like when you have kids, you're you should do laundry every single day in order to maintain it. But what I loved about it is the systematic approach of like it's one a day and it's small, and it happens in the same day in terms of like it goes in, it goes in the dryer, and then it gets like put away and there's one basket. Um yeah, you can only imagine what my house looks like. Because Chris and I, so like I always describe myself as like type as an overall average type B plus.

SPEAKER_02 49:08

Yeah, because I feel like outside looking in, I feel like you're very to me, you seem very type A. I'm like, she gets shit done.

SPEAKER_01 49:15

Like she's looking at me from a professional standpoint. And so it's like I'm a type A realtor and a type C like mom and household runner. And that's because I was so psychotic before kids. And then the second I got pregnant with Rea and I was working full-time and I was being a part-time realtor and I was sick, I was like, I have no choice but to let everything go other than what's necessary. And what's necessary for me to do is take care of my clients. Yes. I don't put laundry in the necess in the necessary. Yeah. We'll see another day. You know what I mean? No, totally.

SPEAKER_02 49:55

And again, I think that's where it's like the individual of like what stresses you out versus what doesn't. Because again, if it were up to my husband, it wouldn't like bother him that like he was chilling after the girls went to bed and the house was still like a mess. Like it wouldn't stress him out in the least. So then it's like not important to him. So I think it's like an individual perspective too, and essentially like what you can handle. For me, I'm like Yeah.

SPEAKER_01 50:19

See, now I'm in the phase of my life, you know, the girls are like almost five and seven. And so now I'm like, it doesn't stress me out, but I also don't want it. So it's like the laundry piling up doesn't stress me out, the main floor like being a mess, like when we go to bed, it doesn't stress me out. Like I'm okay.

SPEAKER_02 50:37

Yeah.

SPEAKER_01 50:38

But I also don't want it, you know.

SPEAKER_02 50:41

I would say too, like, one of the things I would suggest to someone before even trying to like systemize things is like really getting clear on the roles in your family. Because I do feel like women take on the burden of like the children and like the home, but then now we're also like working moms too. And I feel like that's unfair and it creates like resentment or it creates like uncertainty, like, is he gonna do that? Am I gonna do that? And then it doesn't get done, and then it kind of like blows up in your face later. So I feel like having a conversation with your partner, and like or your case, like your kids are older, it's like who is doing what? And like then again, it's like taking it off of your plate because the other person has like the responsibility. So like you don't have to think about it. So for your case, like with your kids being a little bit older, it's like maybe your job is to like throw it in the laundry in the morning, but then like it's your kids' job, like the moment they come home from school, they have to quickly switch it over or something. It's like put delegating the responsibility to someone else so it's not all on you, so that yes, it still gets done, but it's not like your responsibility to do it all the time.

SPEAKER_01 51:51

Okay. So much inspiration. We can all do a little bit better, but we are all also okay. Yeah. Especially when it comes to the home. I think we all do need to like um a lot of us as women, I think, have tied our worth to our home. Yeah. You know, about and like I definitely let that go. And now it's like just a running joke. I literally just embrace the fact that everyone knows I have a messy.

SPEAKER_02 52:16

It's like designing a life too. It's like I think it's like getting clear on like what you want, and maybe like that isn't a priority to you, and that's okay. Just because it's a priority to me does not mean it needs to be a priority for you. Like you can value so many other things. It's really like deciding like what brings you energy, how you want to spend your time. Like, you know, yeah. And so for you, maybe it is like a one-hour reset on the weekend with your fam, and that's good enough. Like, that's fine.

SPEAKER_01 52:43

Yeah, love that. Okay, let's wrap up with your life design, like how people can work with you and what transformations you are seeing in your clients so that if someone listening can see themselves in that or they have been hoping for that themselves, um, they can reach out.

SPEAKER_02 53:04

Okay. So I'm a life design coach, like I said, I work with women on a one-on-one capacity. So we work together one-on-one, we meet bi-weekly on Zoom, and then in between that, I do like full access to like text and voice note because I love the calls for like action and like really talking something through, but you're doing the day-to-day action in the in-between. And that is really where you need support. So having access to me to be able to voice note or text to be like, I have this idea, or like I'm going through this. Like, that's really when the work starts to integrate so that you're able to move forward. I feel like the women that I work with or the women that reach out is you are someone who maybe identifies as a high achiever, maybe you're like a newish mom, you feel like something's off, you feel like disconnected, you feel like your priorities, your values have maybe like changed a little bit, but you feel uncertain of like what that even could look like for you. And so you're kind of in this again, like in-between stage of feeling like disconnected to this version of you that you've spent so many years building. Because again, like for the most part, your life is a series of choices that you made. Like you put yourself where you're at. So I feel like there's this like tough like look in the mirror accountability of like, am I really allowed to like not like it anymore because like I decided this for myself, or does that make me ungrateful because I want something else? So you feel like in this weird place where you don't feel connected, but you don't really know what the future looks like because you don't even know what it could look like in your life now without like blowing everything up. And so yeah, you're at this place where you're kind of like enough is enough. Like I need to do something about it, but I don't know what's and so that's where I feel like a lot of women come to me and I'm able to support them because again, it's just like having a soundboard outside of your friends, your family, your partner, not that any of those are bad, but just being able to have like a safe space where you can share like what it is that you want and being able to like be asked questions to be able to think about certain things. Again, like we're so boxed in with our thoughts. So, like asking questions of like what do you even want?

SPEAKER_01 55:13

Like, yeah, and I see it as like a safe place to land too. Because I think about like even in my own life, let's say Chris all of a sudden like didn't want to be a teacher, and he came to me and he was like, I don't want to be a teacher. Me as this wife would be like, What about our pension? What about our benefits? Totally. Yeah, and it's more about by the way. You know what I mean? And so I think that's important is to go to someone outside of your life that's also not like financially invested and like always like just like blinders on, but you're also so realistic and practical in a way. Yeah, you've got bills to pay, like you've got kids to take care of. You also know that those things are important, but that's not what you're gonna be met with with you, right?

SPEAKER_02 55:55

Yeah, like I love a whole like burn it all down moment, but it's not for most of us. Like that's just not realistic, it's not gonna happen. A lot of us don't have the luxury, a lot of us have like families, you know, we have a responsibility, and so we're not in these stages where we can just like burn it all down and start from scratch. So, really, it's about taking like daily aligned action towards something that you want to do. And that starts small, but like you'll notice momentum happen where you're able to actually make a transition that feels good and it feels reassuring for your family as well because what you're gonna say to your husband is totally valid. Like, literally, what about our pension? You know what I mean?

SPEAKER_01 56:29

Yeah. Do you know what I see you as?

SPEAKER_02 56:31

What?

SPEAKER_01 56:32

I see you as the uh map for off the beaten path.

SPEAKER_02 56:38

Yeah.

SPEAKER_01 56:38

So it's like the your path that you talked about at the top of the episode. When you entered it, it had a map and it had directions. So if someone wants to take the beaten path, get off of the paved path, you're the map.

SPEAKER_02 56:52

Yeah, I can be that map for them, the guide that's like hiding in the bush. Yes, just like judging you along, keep going. Yeah, yeah, because that's the biggest thing is like it's very, very lonely when you want something different. A lot of people will try and convince you otherwise, again, not in a bad way. It's just it's really lonely to want something different.

SPEAKER_03 57:14

Yeah.

SPEAKER_02 57:14

But like I always like think about it. I lost my best friend recently, and she um like the moment that I met her was like through my corporate job. And when she passed, she was like still at that corporate job. And she used to always say like she had all these big dreams for herself. Like she wanted to like get into real estate because her husband was a home renovator, so they really wanted to be this like duo. She was so good at interior design, so she wanted to like take classes, like she had so many dreams, she never did them because she was like, We're having kids, like we're gonna have another kid, like we're renovating our house, like yada yada yada. Like again, like you talk yourself out of it. And I just always think like she'll never get the opportunity to do those things, and it's because she continued to talk herself, tell talk herself out of something that she was extremely passionate about, and that's just like sad. And I think that's like what a lot of people experience, not saying that we're all gonna die tomorrow. I mean, you could, but like I don't want to think that way either. But it's like life is so short. Why not live it doing something that you're so passionate about and it fulfills you? It doesn't feel like work, you have this like sustained energy because it feels good doing it, versus like being forced on this path that feels uh that's just not a vibe for me. It's not a vibe.

SPEAKER_01 58:31

Yeah, it goes back to you know, who are you living your life for? Yeah. Like we're here to just live our life for us. And it's funny because people always say life is so short, do what you want. Life can be short. Yeah. But the way that I look at it is life is so effing long. Why are we doing this that we don't like for decades?

SPEAKER_02 58:55

That sounds like an absolute drag, right? It feels crazy.

SPEAKER_01 59:00

Oh my gosh. Okay, on that note, take some time by yourself. Yes, ask yourself some tough questions. Don't judge yourself for the answers of those questions, just let them flow as well, you know, and then call Megan to talk about it. Thank you so much for being on. Really appreciate your time. Thank you for having me. That's a wrap on today's episode of the Better Your Business Podcast. Thank you so much for tuning in. If you haven't subscribed to the email list, make sure you do that right now. No spammy messages, just easy to implement goodies sent your way along with new episode alerts. If you'd like today's episode, hit follow, leave a quick review, share it on social media, or just send it to a fellow realtor so we can continue to grow this amazing community. Until next time, keep working towards building that dream life. I know you can do it.